The two most important things to control in your life

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By Ben Pakulski
“Set the goal of getting in the best shape of your life, not for the end result, but for what it will make of you to achieve it.”
We all want to create a life worth living.

“Success,” whatever that means to you, comes down to identifying key targets, executing with discipline and precision, and perhaps most importantly of all, enjoying the process along the way.

I spent 20 years ascending the ranks of amateur, and then professional bodybuilding and it wasn’t until I started to truly find the enjoyment in the process that I actually really began to thrive every day.

If you want to succeed, and enjoy the process along the way, here are TWO things you must take complete control over from this moment forward:

Your Attitude:
You are in control of your life. A positive and growth-minded attitude of gratitude is vital to your lasting success. If you’re a victim, no amount of intelligent exercise or mentorship will help. You must bring an attitude of ownership and control for your life. You are the creator, and you alone are responsible for your actions and your outcomes. Start right now and pay attention to the words you use, and your inner self talk. That is the window into your unconscious mind where your identity and beliefs live. Are your identity and beliefs serving you? Or making you a victim? A victim is never in control, and therefore simply can’t ever win. Face your fears, question your beliefs, and accept responsibility for your actions. Sometimes, your attitude can be a result of years of programming. Think of it as a struggle between two parts of your brain: the amygdala, and the prefrontal cortex. Train your brain to suppress the reactionary mind, and reinforce the logical prefrontal cortex through meditation, yoga, breathing, gratitude.

Your Effort:
Perception is reality. If you think it’s going to be hard, it will. If you think you’re going to fail, fall short, quit, go back to the old you, you will. Nothing is hard, you simply haven’t done it enough, yet! Try to think of someone that really has it hard, or perhaps someone that isn’t able to do what you do but is trying with all their might.

The associations in your brain will shape your perceived effort in the future. If, when something gets hard, you become afraid, panic, stop, or complain, your brain will start to fear this thing and avoid it. If you associate the challenge with growth, progress, and moving closer and closer to your end result, smile, and say thank you for being allowed the opportunity to get better every day (gratitude), you will start to seek obstacles as your greatest opportunity for growth.

If you have any questions, comments, or feedback about what we’re doing, I’d love to hear it – leave us a comment or reach out on social media.

Live your greatest life in a body you love,
Coach Ben Pakulski
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Ben Pakulski

Ben Pakulski

Since first lifting weights as a teenager, Ben has been on a mission to do whatever it takes… …to become the most muscular man on the planet! On the eve of The Arnold Classic, he confronts the dark realities of bodybuilding… And his own future! Follow him on his journey…

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